First family meetings as a couple
June 20, Summer Solstice, 2012.
Family meetings in my relationship with my boyfriend aren't the same dynamic as most couples are. For most young couples, the first 'meeting the family' scenario becomes some huge event, to prove themselves worthy of their partners love and therefore gain the family stamp of approval. It's a test to see how compatible a couple really is, (learning about your partner's major influences, environment, and genetics, as well as future expectations of family dynamics) if they will be able to stand each other 40 years down the line, when she inherits her uncle's early pattern baldness and he suffers an expensive mid-life crisis just like his father.
However, K & I have known each other for.... [well, since I was 10 and he was 8. So... if I was born in 1984.... yeah, I think that makes 27. Pretty sure. Too lazy to math. ANYWAY...] ...16 years. Ish. That is a looooooooooong ass time. So I already KNOW his family, and they know mine. That's not the issue.
First (& consequential) family meetings are not to meet and inform an opinion, they have already made their opinion of each of us. For us, these meetings are more to remind everyone, oh yes, by the way, thought is best if you were made aware of the slight change of adjustment in our relationship dynamic, and therefore, yours. Thought you ought to know: updates your mental caches, please.
Family meetings in my relationship with my boyfriend aren't the same dynamic as most couples are. For most young couples, the first 'meeting the family' scenario becomes some huge event, to prove themselves worthy of their partners love and therefore gain the family stamp of approval. It's a test to see how compatible a couple really is, (learning about your partner's major influences, environment, and genetics, as well as future expectations of family dynamics) if they will be able to stand each other 40 years down the line, when she inherits her uncle's early pattern baldness and he suffers an expensive mid-life crisis just like his father.
However, K & I have known each other for.... [well, since I was 10 and he was 8. So... if I was born in 1984.... yeah, I think that makes 27. Pretty sure. Too lazy to math. ANYWAY...] ...16 years. Ish. That is a looooooooooong ass time. So I already KNOW his family, and they know mine. That's not the issue.
First (& consequential) family meetings are not to meet and inform an opinion, they have already made their opinion of each of us. For us, these meetings are more to remind everyone, oh yes, by the way, thought is best if you were made aware of the slight change of adjustment in our relationship dynamic, and therefore, yours. Thought you ought to know: updates your mental caches, please.
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