"Try harder"

I think my biggest issue with my health and ADD is recognizing my own limitations. I want to do everything, but I have finally come to accept that I'm not capable of it. The problem is when well-meaning loved ones don't understand, and think they are encouraging me by telling me to "try harder." No. I've tried that. I spin in circles, get nowhere, and I am stressed all the time. They think, because it is easy for them, it should, therefore, be easy for me as well.

If I say I cannot do something, or I ask for help, it is not because I am lazy. I am a very prideful person, and I respected my own independence... it kills me to have to ask for help and recognize that some things are just beyond me. I could probably do them myself, yes, if I focused all of my energies on that one thing, but often, the amount of time, money, effort and energy is not worth it. I have sparingly few resources, I have to spend them where they most count. You can help me most by acknowledging my limitations and not expecting too much of me at this point in my life.